Rather than work-life balance, let’s talk about ease and flow
Wednesday, March 14th, 2012Gosh! You guys are awesome.
Thanks so much for all your wonderful comments on my last post. I’m determined to personally email each and every one of you so hang in there if I haven’t got to yours yet.
As you know, I rarely get so many comments
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Today is a momentous day for us – my twins moved to “big beds” tonight.
I think they had an inkling that something was afoot because they were up and about til after 9 pm (this is unheard of in our household) last night.
They are adorable at this age – of course the cuteness is interspersed with a few tantrums – so I didn’t get too cross with them.
There wasn’t too much drama tonight – but they still missed their bedtime by an hour!
It made me think about how we all have that inbuilt radar for when things feel “off”.
Sometimes it’s just a bit off like when I start dropping food in the kitchen, burning myself taking things out of the oven or breaking mugs or glasses.
*Ahem* that’s a sign I need to get out of the kitchen before I cut off my finger.
Other times your whole life just feels off.
Off like “I don’t know how I’m going to get through all this busyness” off.
I have my tricks for getting through those times, most of which I share in Break out of overwhelm.
It’s a rhythm.
Personally I can’t deal with too much off for very long which is probably why I work really hard at the balance.
I know many of you don’t believe in work-life balance – neither do I – but it’s the feeling of your life having flow and ease instead of living on the extreme ends of the spectrum.
There are so many demands on all of our time that it feels virtually impossible to ever achieve that all-elusive life balance.
To feel like you effortlessly flow from one area of your life to the next, and not feel guilty about any of the individual parts.
Here are my 6 best tips to achieve flow:
1. Realise you only have so many hours in the day
We all only have 24-hour days. Some of us think we’re Superwoman and have more time than that. We don’t. The sooner you realise this, the happier you’ll be.
2. Write down your different roles and the time commitment required from each of them
Don’t forget to add in managing your home and personal time!
The idea is to see if you’re a time optimist or if you’re being realistic with your time. Sometimes we think a certain activity only takes, let’s say, two hours a week. When you factor in travel time plus preparation time, it may increase to four or five hours. No wonder you always feel frazzled when you think about this specific activity.
3. Now ask yourself these questions:
- Am I too busy?
- Am I trying to do too much?
- Am I being realistic about the amount of time outside commitments take?
- What do I need or want to focus on at this time in my life?
- What can I cut out?
- What can I delegate?
4. Prioritise
I do an exercise with my time management clients where they tell me all the different areas of their lives. Some people have lots and lots of balls that they’re trying to juggle. That’s okay (not preferable though) as long as your self-defined priorities are in order.
Don’t neglect your home and family commitments just to look good on a committee.
My preference is to do less overall and do the things I love really well rather than to feel overwhelmed by taking on more and more.
5. Realise that when you say yes to something, you automatically say no to something else.
Some things in life are just for a season, like the newborn stage of having twins. So while reading and going to my dance classes are extremely important to me, I personally did a lot less when my twins were little because I had to sleep whenever I could just to keep myself sane.
6. Keep evaluating and tweaking
Just when you think you have things figured out, suddenly something won’t work anymore.
That’s normal with organising anything, let alone your time.
Keep evaluating where you’re at – I do this on a weekly basis – and tweak, tweak, tweak. Just because it suited you to work really long hours a few months ago doesn’t mean it still suits you to do so now.
So that’s how I create flow and ease in my life. I want to emphasise that it’s an area I’m always working on!
As always, if you need a Personal Time Session with me, contact me. I have a client currently on a break so I have four sessions available. Do you want one of them?
I’m a bit off at the moment (about a 6 on the scale) because my house is a wreck due to the kids’ big beds arriving and some painting I’m having done. Oh, to have my house sorted again
Do you believe in work-life balance? Why or why not?
How much flow and ease do you have in your life right now?
PS My friend, Beth Dargis, wrote a great blog post on how balance is like perfectionism. Have a read – it’s definitely worth the click.













