Geniuses, Jerry and a fantastic reader question

A good few weeks ago a reader sent me a question wondering about a business owner whose products I sometimes promote.

This business owner clearly has very different personal values than I do and the reader wondered how I reconcile that in my mind as the business owner uses profanity and is very woo-woo, and the reader knows I’m a Christian.

I loved this email and this is my response:

Most business people I follow don’t have exactly the same beliefs as I do. The way I approach this is in a two-pronged way:

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1. I listen to my intuition.

Sometimes I land on a person’s site, read just a paragraph and know that this is not the place for me, and I click out. Easy-peasy.

This is usually a person who is vastly different to me and the way I do things.

2. I notice whether I’ve found value in their content or not

Sometimes I find value in about 70 – 90% of what I read/ listen to, and I’m happy to toss out the 10 – 30% if overall the person’s online content sits well with me.

I follow this scripture and it’s stood me in good stead for 21 years. Colossians 3:15 Let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts.

When I don’t feel right inside, I move on, unsubscribe, etc. I’ve done this a lot over the years.

I will also only work with coaches personally if I resonate with them. As should you!

Some things are an immediate trigger for me and some things aren’t.

For this particular businessperson, I don’t watch the videos where profanity is free :) and if I read a blog post with a lot of f-words seemingly just for shock value, I close the post and mark it as read. And obviously, I’m not at all woo-woo so all  of that I just ignore and move on.

It’s important to note that the things this person puts out without any woo-woo overtures are very solid business advice, advice I have personally benefited from (otherwise I wouldn’t promote that product).

In one product, the entire thing is amazing and there was one page of oracle readings (whatever those are :)). I just ripped out that page and carried on using the rest. Done.

I hope this helped you, dear reader. I really loved your question very much!

(I asked the reader if I could post the question on the blog, masking the identity, and the reader agreed, but also asked that I protect the business owner’s identity, which I think is a fair trade :))

Please share with me how you filter content that doesn’t sit well with you.


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And last but not least, some lovely links for the weekend:

1. This was very interesting to read. The daily habits of geniuses.

2. Read the bit about when you start with intention

3. And….a friend sent me this Youtube video. I love Jerry Seinfeld. He uses a word starting with a c (not clutter!) in this clip so be aware.

Tomorrow is our next session of the Let’s Do This workshop and then tomorrow night is my favourite night of the month. It’s GOALS NIGHT :)

What will you do this weekend?

{Live intentionally} How to increase your happiness

We’ve stayed in the same two flats (apartments) in Ballito the last 4 times we’ve been for holidays.

They either have the same owner or the same people renovated them because they have very similar finishes.

And they have these amazing door handles which I love.

Handles you can hang a cap or tote bag or towel off of.

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It’s a small thing that makes me very happy.

I was tidying up my bedroom earlier this month and the thought flashed through my mind, “oh I wish I had those Ballito door handles” and then I thought, “why not?!”

So off I went to the hardware store and I bought 6 new handles.

They were the wrong size so I had to exchange them the following weekend but still…

It took Connor (my 5-year-old) and me 30 minutes total to take off the old ones and screw in the new ones.

I am SUPER happy about them and do you know what this tiny change cost me?

R89,94 (less than $8!)

I can’t believe I waited this long to make such a small change that has impacted my happiness level a LOT.

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What does that look like for you?

I work with someone who was getting frustrated every day by her lift club lady arriving 30 minutes later than planned to collect her from home and work.

I’ve been telling her for months to find a new Lift Club Lady and she didn’t like to upset Current Lady so she carried on, feeling stressed and anxious daily.

But one day she announced with a big smile that she had a new lift club and she was so happy to be at work on time and not wait around outside the building either.

Small change, big difference!

What small change can you make in your home or life to improve your happiness levels?

It’s nearly autumn

Help! I need more time

Playing with leaves while taking a photo walk with the kids on Saturday

I’m so excited because registration for the autumn session of Help! I need more time is now open.

As you can see, my life is not perfect but I do live all the things I talk about on the course.

For the next week, everyone who signs up gets a f.r.e.e. copy of the 63-page e-book, 31 days of Enough Time.

I am also gifting seats on the course to TWO people who promote the course most authentically. So have at it:

Tweet, write on Facebook, share on Instagram, blog about it, email your friends and then tell me about it in the comments on this blog post.

* Tip – if I were you, I’d take 10 minutes to brainstorm and then diarise to do something different on a daily basis, or every second day.

The competition closes on Friday 13th March :)

Thank you for helping me spread the word, but more than that, I want to see you on the course.

Happy Monday, everybody!

{15-minute organising} Stationery caddy

I love 15-minute organising projects.

They are so quick to tick off a list and so incredibly satisfying.

I’m going to let the photos do the talking since it’s all quite straightforward.

These photos were very quickly taken with my iphone as I organised.

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Before… a big mess

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close-up view

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I emptied everything out onto the desk

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…cleaned out the caddy (these are cutlery caddies from Mr Price Home – I paid R50 about 3 – 4 years ago)

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sort like with like (who knew I had so many permanent markers? well, I did – I super love permanent markers)

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I tested all the markers and the other pens, etc. and tossed out the ones that no longer worked.

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This is the pile that was relegated to other parts of the house – bedside table, kids’ stationery caddy, extra supplies bucket in my cupboard.

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These are the ones that made the cut.

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front view – AH!

 

No great shakes for others maybe, but everything in there works and is meant to be in prime stationery real estate :)

How often do you organise your stationery?

What’s your 15-minute organising project this weekend?

(mine is assembling goody bags for the Let’s Do This workshop happening next weekend. Stay tuned for the new workshop announcement – I’m doing a super fun workshop in March)

{Time management} The Instagram time suck

This is my year of enough.

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I’ve said often we have enough time for all the things we really want to do and I’ll be writing periodically about ways I bring enough time to my own life.

Post 1 – email on the phone

Post 2 – why we’re all not reading enough

This is post 3 – Instagram

Before, I felt a need to see every single pretty picture of all the people I follow on Instagram.

Not quite that bad, but close.

However, Instagram is as much a rabbit hole as Facebook, blogs, etc.

I love it dearly but I’ve set myself a few rules (I like rules for myself) that I’m sticking to about 98% of the time:

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1. I contribute content before I consume it

That means, if I go onto Instagram, it should be to first post my own photos before I start scrolling away.

2. I connect as I consume

It’s not good enough for me to just scroll aimlessly, so I “like” other people’s photos, leave comments and generally use it as a place to connect.

After I post my photo, I check my “news” to see if anyone’s commented on any of my photos that I need to answer. Confession – I’m not great at this yet unless it’s a comment that needs a proper answer.

3. It’s okay if I don’t see everything

I generally give myself 5 – 10 minutes at a time and if I don’t see everyone’s photos, that’s just fine. Strangely, I don’t feel like I’m missing out because I remember the things I want to do in my real life :) and I’m actually asking myself a favourite question of mine, what is the most important use of my time right now?

4. I tell myself this important sentence

“Everybody else dips in and out of your feed; you can do the same” ;)

#truestory

 

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Since I started sticking to my rules, I have more time (duh!) and some days I honestly forget about my phone in my handbag for 5 – 6 hours at a stretch.

It’s totally working!

Do you have rules or policies for your Instagram usage?

Do you find it hard to stay off Instagram, or do you have another social media vice?

“Pick my Brain” sessions for March – now open

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I’ve had many requests from people to pick my brain.

Maybe you’re one of those thinking about it too?

I’ve decided to offer a limited number of “pick my brain” sessions every month.

We can talk on the phone or via Skype.

In the past, people have picked my brain on these kinds of issues:

– how to run a business while working full-time
– how do I write the book I know is inside of me?
– I’ve written my book. How do I get all the bits and pieces together so it gets Kindle-ised and up on Amazon, or ready for publishing?
– I want to start doing talks. How do I get clear on my message and how do I get my first talks booked?
– I would love to be a professional organiser. How do I get started? (this is very popular)
– how to save towards a big juicy goal like taking a sabbatical (like I did last year)

actually, the sky’s the limit!

Read more here.

Email and tell me when you want your session, I’ll invoice you via Paypal and we’re good to go.

(if you want the recording, tell me and I’ll arrange that for you too)

Looking forward to having 10 of you pick my brain soon.

{Live intentionally} Follow your own path

I go to a Zumba class every Saturday morning.

I’m usually about 3 rows from the front off to the side so I have a fairly good vantage point of most of the class.

Sometimes if I know the routine too well (this doesn’t happen often because I forget everything the minute I leave), my mind wanders during class and I start watching the other people…

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And then I forget the steps, miss a beat or stop enjoying the dance.

There’s a lady who is front and centre every week who is a a beat or two off, always, and no matter what, whenever I watch what she’s doing, I miss my own steps too.

I was thinking how these lessons in a Zumba class are also true for life.

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  • When you take your eyes off your own path, you lose your way.
  • You forget why you’ve decided on your choices for your life
  • You miss a beat (or two) because you’re watching others or comparing yourself to them
  • You stop enjoying your life (you were perfectly happy with your kitchen til you saw other amazing kitchens on Instagram)

I follow Elise Cripe and I’ve heard her say on a podcast before that she never gets jealous when she scrolls instagram because she knows how, when she posts pics, those are mere moments in her own life, and so she assumes that of course the images other people share are also just their moments and two minutes later, there’s obviously a dirty kitchen, a crying baby, messy hair, etc.

Wonderful perspective and SUCH great advice for us all, isn’t it?

This week, I want to encourage you to stop looking around and live your OWN life intentionally.

Registration has now closed for the next Let’s Do This workshop on the 28th Feb (send me an email to be put on the waiting list for the next workshop) but you can always work with me virtually by downloading either of these  workbooks.

Thank you for supporting me so I can continue to motivate and inspire you with this blog!

{Living intentionally} Something fun for the weekend

Just a courtesy reminder for the locals among you – registration closes today for the next session of Let’s Do This. Don’t let this year just float away from you – take charge and live with intention.

I hope to see you in my lounge :)

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You all know I love a good project so this year I decided to do two fun projects:

  1. I’m sending out 52 pieces of “real” mail, via a post office :)… with stamps!
  2. I’m giving away 40 things (hopefully a lot more, but definitely 40 things) as God leads me

 

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52 pieces of mail

I saw something on a blog late last year where the lady is sending out one letter a week. If you know the blog, please tell me (I was blog surfing from somewhere – it wasn’t on my normal list of reads).

Here’s the thing I want you to take note of:

I know myself and that the project wouldn’t work for me, just as is. I’d have a busy week or two and then feel like the project was compromised.

So I changed it to send out 52 pieces of mail, WHENEVER.

I can send 12 in one month, and nothing for two months. All good.

I’ve already sent out 5 notes and it’s been SO fun. I use bright markers, washi tape, stickers, etc. to make it FUN for the recipient.

So beware, if I have your address, you might be getting some happy mail from me.

40 things

I want to hear from God and obey. I especially want to be a vessel for God to work through.

I’ve already done two of these 40 random gifts and it’s quite scary – what if I miss it and the person thinks I’m psycho when I say “God said this is for you”….

But so far so good… both recipients were happy (and didn’t think me psycho) so that makes me happy.

Now I want to hear from you.

Are you doing any fun projects this year? Walks, photo projects, reading goals, etc?

{Time management} Why you and I are not reading more books

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A few weeks ago I read something on a blog that blew my mind –

 

The average reader can read a book in about 4 and a half hours.

 

Wow!

I’m a faster than average reader but I’ve never officially had my reading speed checked, so let’s just say I read a book in about 4 hours.

Technically, I should then get through many more books than I currently do (5 – 6 a month).

I took it a step further and asked myself why?

And the answer won’t surprise you – social media, blogs, messing on Instagram. I could easily read blogs for 2 hours a night and scroll instagram for another hour; why not use that time to move toward my goals instead of reading about people I don’t even know?

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So that weekend I decided to do an experiment – after Sunday lunch, I parked myself on a chair and read a book for about 3 hours. Sure enough I had about 50 pages to go before the book was done.

That night I finished the book.

I did the same the next weekend.

And the next.

Obviously nothing else got done but that’s how I prefer to read a novel – completely immerse myself.

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So if you’re thinking, “I don’t have enough time to read,” take an afternoon on a weekend, leave your phone and computer far away from you and just read.

My kids played outside, watched some sport with Dion and then did some craftsy things by themselves (I don’t know exactly what because I was reading :)).

By the way, I’ve found the Kindle app on the ipad even more amazing. When you start a book it says, “learning reading speed” and after a while it will tell you, “only 2 hours and 40 minutes to go”.

Tell me – how can any goal-oriented person ignore that? It is DIVINE and I love it!

(it’s also the reason I sometimes stay up too late “I’ll be done in 28 minutes” :))

How do you make time for reading?

PS The last time I wrote about making time for reading I also had a pic of a Sheila O’Flanagan book!

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Easy (and cheap!) Valentine’s ideas

We do Valentine’s but we certainly don’t go overboard – a little present for the teachers and I’ll do a little something for my loves at home too.

Last year Kendra asked for pancakes for Valentine’s (apparently I make the best pancakes in the world) so of course we made some.

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Kendra cut out the heart shapes and we all drizzled strawberry syrup on top. YUM!

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Two years ago I made these very cute gifts for the teachers and teachers’ aides.

One packet of Strawberry Fluffs in a little jar, a free printable off the internet and some bakers twine.

So easy and SO, so cute!

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So I decorated these notebooks with decorative tape, I wound some of the same tape around a pencil and I washi taped the pencil to the notebook.

Cute, cute, cute.

 

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When those were done, I made some smaller notebooks for the kids too. This time I stamped hearts all over the notebooks, and again attached pencils.

They still have these notebooks because they say the hearts mean I love them. Of course I do :)

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This year we’re going to a party in the afternoon, and we’ll watch something fun together in the evening.

I’ll get some red and pink food (pizza/ pasta with tomatoes) and we’ll probably have waffles with strawberry syrup, or scones with strawberry jam for dessert.

Low-key but still fun, just like I like it :)

What are you doing for Valentine’s this year?

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